Hello, my love. This months blog is all about Healing School, and if you don’t know what Healing School is and you’re reading this, I’m glad you are here.
Healing School is for you if talking therapy hasn’t been enough to get you where you want to be in your healing. Maybe you’re still wobbly around some of the relationships in your life. Perhaps you’re still struggling with sex? Maybe you’ve had talking therapy, but you are still experiencing intrusive thoughts about yourself, or perhaps your self-esteem hasn’t recovered (read that as often feel like dog sh!t).
Healing School is a year-long support programme for victims and survivors of sexual violence. Inside Healing School’s metaphorical walls is an online programme covering the core areas of sexual violence healing. What's great about it is that, unlike most sexual violence support services, Healing School is available to you immediately. No waiting lists. Outside of the core modules, online live workshops are available to you if and when you want to join. We meet twice a month to learn and support.
Healing School works because healing this kind of trauma takes time, and with an entire year, you get to go as fast or slow as you need. It also works as it brings you into a community that understands and encourages you to prioritise your healing. Because it allows you to look at every aspect of what happened, gently and at your own pace, and move through it to a place where you feel like yourself again (but a better, shinier, take no shit but do no harm version)
Before you start Healing School, you need to know it is possible. Those demons, dark days, and mountains you keep facing are scaleable. You can face them. You can defeat them (even if defeat looks like learning how to be kind to yourself and be shown how to nurture your self-esteem). It’s possible because I am living, breathing proof. It’s possible because those who have used healing school agree; just look at what women say.
And I know it's hard to believe anything can ever change how you feel right now but what's the alternative? Stay where you are? Carry on drudging forward wishing, hoping and pretending?. I can tell you with 100% certainty the legacy that is sexual violence trauma does not go away without work, and I don’t mean the kind of work where you keep busy doing things, so you don’t have to think about it kind of work. You are not meant to carry this in silence. You don’t have to do this alone.
Facing the true impact sexual violence has had on you can be really uncomfortable. It takes time, and so far, anything to do with what happened has hurt like hell. Why would you want to face it? And you wouldn’t be alone. Hundreds of thousands of women push down what happened because it’s too much to face. And if this you, I understand, I do.
But I want to give you a little look behind the curtain at what happens when you do the work. Because on the other side of the darkness comes relationships based on respect, love, laughter and kindness. Inner confidence enough to love yourself and know that you are worthy.
Because when you don’t do the work, it's hard to be around “ordinary” people without getting overwhelmed and burnout. When you don’t do the work, the blame and shame stick to you as if you have been tarred and feathered.
Healing School gives you everything you need to make your healing a priority. It's a beautiful female community of women who understand how you feel. It is a safe space that takes you and your experience seriously and supports you for an entire year (because it's less scary when we walk this path together). Healing Schools course was written specifically for female victims and survivors of sexual violence: no tricky triggers, just oodles of love, gentleness and encouragement.
You can find out more about Healing School here.
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